DAY 8: NEW HOPE ... WHEN WE FORGIVE
By Benescke Janse van Rensburg

[Background: Several readers have asked me over the past few days to write something about forgiveness. Here are a few questions from the e-mails I received:]

Reader 1: “How do you forgive someone who has wronged you so much that you and your child's life is irrevocably changed because of the person's actions?”

You can not change the past. What you can do is to determine your own actions for today. Dwelling too long on something that hurt tremendously in the past causes a fear of forgiveness to reside in your heart. Why? We fear that our forgiveness of that person will cause him or her to walk away unharmed, while you still have to bear the consequences of their actions.

What we do not realize, is that our unforgiving attitude leads to bitterness which poisons our whole being. On the other hand, if we choose to forgive and leave the judgment to God, He frees us from the past and fights our case on our behalf as He is a Righteous Judge.
In Psalm 50:6 we read: “And the heavens proclaim his righteousness, for he is a God of justice.” And in Isaiah 54:17 is written: “ ... their vindication will come from me. I, the Lord, have spoken!”

To forgive the person who wronged you is step one. Thereafter, the healing process can start. And though it might be hurtful to work through all the different emotions, be assured that if you make God a part of this journey, He will enable you to not only get through it, but to come out stronger and wiser on the other side. Give Him a chance to fight on your behalf – you will never regret it!

Reader 2: "I have made many mistakes in my life and have confessed it before God. Although I think God has forgiven me, I sometimes still feel guilty and struggle to forgive myself. Do you have any advice? "

When we confess our sins with a pure heart before God, He forgives us and never thinks about our transgressions anymore. In Psalm 103:12 we read: “He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west.” And in Isaiah 44:22, God says: “I have swept away your sins like a cloud. I have scattered your offenses like the morning mist.”

Do not wait for a special feeling in your heart to know you are forgiven. Have faith and trust God’s word. Knowing that you are forgiven, brings freedom and joy to your life. The enemy does not like this and would do everything in his power to constantly remind you of your past mistakes. If this therefore happens again, have faith and remind him that Jesus already won on the cross: “So if the Son sets you free, you are truly free.” (John 8:36). Leave the guilt behind and walk with freedom and joy into your future!

Reader 3: “How should I pray that God soften someone’s hardened heart towards me?”

God is able to harden and soften any person’s heart. We saw it with Pharaoh and the Israelites during the ten plagues in Egypt. In Proverbs 21:1 we also read: “The king’s heart is like a stream of water directed by the Lord; he guides it wherever he pleases.” And in Ezekiel 36:26, God says: “And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.”
If someone therefore has a grudge against you, pray that God, by His Holy Spirit, will work on your behalf, softening that person’s heart and change their attitude towards you and the particular situation. Remember, God knows that person much better than you do. You can therefore ask Him for wisdom to use the right words at the right time to sort out the matter. He always knows best.

Father God, thank You for forgiving my wrongdoings when I come to You with a sincere heart. Help me not to repay evil with evil, but to leave the judgment to You. Also help me to process any hurt from the past so that I can experience freedom in my life again. I ask this in the Name of Jesus Christ. Amen.